If you find yourself here because you have experienced the death of your baby or child, I just want to take this moment to send you all of my love. If this was not the internet and instead y were knocking on my front door, I would welcome you in, give you a warm hug and make you some tea. We would sit down together in my art studio and I would listen to your story. We would just sit there and be. You would leave my home when you felt ready, knowing that this journey of grief and healing was entirely yours and that you could choose to do whatever you like with it. You would leave with a deep knowing that you are not alone. There are others like you and I and that there is beauty to be found along this road of grief.
After experiencing the stillbirth of our beautiful son Christian my world came crashing down. I felt as if my soul left my body. I was weak. I was numb. I lost a lot of weight. I stopped living and started existing. I stopped answering the phone. I put down my paint brushes. I closed up all the doors and windows and I shut myself off from the real world. I was dead inside. My life had ended too.
After 18 months of trying to make sense of Christian’s death, I dreamed of him for the first time. I felt a deep connection to him. When I woke up from this dream, I felt my blood begin to pump around my weary body again. My soul light was reignited. He was okay. He was more than okay. He was living a full and amazing life, just somewhere else.
The dream that I had inspired me to visit the beach and write Christian’s name in the sand. On August 19th 2008 Christian’s Beach was born and our lives were changed again forever. Since that day back in the Winter of 2008 over 20,000 children’s names have been written in the sand at sunset on Christian’s Beach. You can now find most of my Beach Art and Memorial Beach Photographs here.
Over the last few years I have felt led to share my experience with others walking the road of pregnancy, infant and child loss. My family and I have created three international days for bereaved families. Bereaved Mothers Day, Bereaved Fathers Day and August 19th – Day of Hope. All of my grief projects can be found by licking on the “GRIEF PROJECTS” tab at the top of this website.
When your world is turned upside down by the death of your precious child, it really does feel like your world has ended. Finding joy or even thinking about having a beautiful life again seems impossible. You need to sit with grief. You need to go through the darkness, but you do not have to stay there forever. Healing is real and waiting for anyone who desires it. It comes in many different shapes and forms. The trick is to find what heals you. Take your time.
Project Heal is my place of healing and transformation, growth and learning. It is my place to come and write about my light-work, my life, what is inspiring me, what I am working on, what my children are teaching me, what this life is teaching me. I write often at my facebook page, it is filled with my photographs and stories. Project Heal is not just about healing from this terribly dark experience. It is about sitting with your grief, exploring it and growing with it. It is about returning to life and living it wholeheartedly. Not just for yourself, but for your child too.
If you are newly bereaved, a lot of my work may not resonate with you and that is simpy because we are in different stages, but later down the road you may find yourself in a different place where my work does speak to your heart.
I have written so much about my son that I have planted his story into the ground. It’s rooted deep in the Earth, intertwined amongst the trees and rivers. The Earth knows his story now, he will not be forgotten. He will be remembered long after I become ash myself. I can breathe a sigh of relief. Since Christian died, I have always identified myself with his loss. I didn’t know who I was outside of my grief. I now am on the road to creating my beautiful life I am discovering my purpose. It’s a beautiful and exciting point to be at, to be living an inspired life. I hope I can share that with you, I hope you feel that connection to life at some point too. I feel so many of us lose our old identity through our grief and so we cling to it. We don’t know who we are outside of it. The truth is that grief is a part of me. I have accepted that, but it is not all of me. I hope my work empowers others to rediscover themselves as well. Healing is possible when you are mindful about the importance of self care, self love, self growth and healing. Remember to be still. Remember to take moments each day just to stop and observe what your heart is feeling. Stand outside in the Earth. Get fresh air everyday and open your heart to the beauty that this world holds for you.
WHERE ELSE YOU CAN FIND ME <3
My art, heartwork and story has been published in the following books:
If you are here because your heart is broken my hope for you is that you can begin to heal, grow and learn and that you can find the light that shines within you… it never goes out, it may dim at times, but like your soul, your light is eternal. May you find your light again and see that you are a real gift to this world. In time, you will discover the gifts that your child has left for you in their short life. Just like every baby who is born healthy and alive, your child is a miracle and a true gift to you and this Earth.
With love and blessings to you,