Welcome to The Official International Bereaved Mother’s Day website. Here below you will find all the information about this movement and how you can be a part of it. This year International Bereaved Mother’s Day will celebrated on Sunday May 7th 2017 (International Bereaved Father’s Day – Sunday September 10th 2017). Please visit our International Mother Hearts Community Project to be a part of this beautiful movement.
Mother’s Day is a day of the year that we come together to celebrate all mothers around the world. It’s a day that is intended to bring joy, recognition, love and appreciation to these incredible women that do so much for humanity. However, if you have experienced the death of one or more of your babies or children (including adult children), struggle to conceive a child or are unable to fall pregnant at all, this day can often bring up feelings of isolation, unworthiness, pain and sadness. Much of society has forgotten the true meaning of Mother’s Day and fails to support and recognize all true mothers.
THE HISTORY OF MOTHER’S DAY
American, Anna Jarvis, founded the official Mother’s Day in 1908 to honour her own mother, Ann. Ann Jarvis gave birth to around a dozen children. Only 4 survived to grow into adults. Most of her children who died, passed away from diseases such as the measles and typhoid fever. The history of this Mother’s Day is fascinating. With such heartfelt and meaningful roots, it is devastating to see how through the years, the true meaning of mother’s day has been some what lost and is now what some would describe as a commercialized card company event that people make millions of dollars from. The worst thing is that bereaved mothers are usually completely forgotten.
Mother’s Day was created in honour of a bereaved mother so we believe it is time to take this day back to its roots. For us to educate the rest of society on the true meaning of Mother’s Day, we must use our voices. We become mothers the very moment that we open our hearts to the idea of conceiving a child. Let us remind people of this truth.
ABOUT INTERNATIONAL BEREAVED MOTHER’S DAY
In 2010, I felt drawn to create International Bereaved Mother’s Day to help heal hurting Mother Hearts. International Bereaved Mother’s Day is intended to be a temporary movement. It is a heart centered attempt at healing the official Mother’s Day for all mothers. I believe that we can do this and that sometime in the near future there will be no need for this day at all because all true mothers will be recognized, loved, supported and celebrated. This year’s Mother Hearts Project is set to open peoples eyes as to what it is like to live as a bereaved mother.
Sunday May 7th 2017, get together with your closest friends and family and celebrate your beautiful Mother Heart. Celebrate your babies and children. Lets speak about the true meaning of Mother’s Day. Let us start some healing conversations.
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TIPS ON HOW TO HELP A BEREAVED MOTHER THIS MOTHER’S DAY
1. Acknowledge: Think about the women in your life. Do you know if they have suffered a loss? Have they struggled to conceive a child? Are they unable to fall pregnant? It does not matter what they have faced, they still deserve love and recognition for being the beautiful mothers that they are. In the words of Franchesca Cox, “A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart.” Sometimes a few simple heartfelt words in a card/letter/sms/email is all it takes to help lift the spirits of a mother hurting this Mother’s Day. “You are a beautiful mother.” or “You have a beautiful Mother Heart.” “You are an honour to your children.” “This world need more mother’s like you.” A simple “I am thinking of you today.” is perfect. Extend as much love as you can and if you can give that mother a hug in person, even better.
2. Speak Their Child’s Name: This is so important. People are often afraid to say their child’s name because they feel like they will be reminding the mother of what happened. Us mothers, we never forget. One of our biggest fears is that our children will be forgotten, so speak their names. It is one of the greatest gifts you could give.
3. Hold Space and Listen: Spend some time with your friends and family. Hold a safe space for them. Ask them how they are doing and really listen to them. You do not have to offer your advice, truth is, if you have not experienced what they have, it probably isn’t going to help anyway. Sometimes all we need is someone to listen to us. You do not need to fix your loved one, you just need to love them.
4. Honour Their Journey and/or Child: There are a few things that you can do to make this day special. Firstly, if your friend has experienced the death of one or more of their children, you could do something in memory of them. A few ideas could be, planting a tree or giving the mother a tree to plant in their honour. You could give the mother a piece of memorial jewellery that features her child’s name or love hearts if her babies were too young to be named. You could make a donation to a charity in their honour.
5. Accept: Accept that your loved one may not want to attend the family gathering this year. If they feel that they could not handle the event, they are taking responsibility for their own healing. This is truly wonderful. Honour their choice, even if it disappoints you. Tell them that you understand and that if they change their mind on the day, they are still welcome to come. Let them know that they will be thought of.
TIPS ON NOT JUST SURVIVING MOTHER’S DAY, BUT CELEBRATING IT
1: Look After Yourself: Be gentle on yourself and do what is right for you. If that means saying no to the family dinner, then so be it. You may disappoint people, but how people choose to react to your decision or choice is not your responsibility.
2: Comfort Yourself: Spend the day doing things that comfort your heart. You may want to go for a walk in the fresh air or visit the beach. Soak in a bath. Go out with your best friend for lunch. Or maybe retreating with ice-cream and movie sounds best to you. Surround yourself with loving people who if not understand what you have been through, accept it.
3: Honour Your Child/Journey: Bringing ritual into your journey can help with healing. You may want to create a space in your home to remember your child, or honour the journey you are on. Light a candle, put up some beautiful images and allow the space to be a place of reflection and healing for you.
4: Seek Out Support: Whether that support is from friends or family or from resources or support groups online, it does not matter. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It shows that you are taking responsibility for your healing and that is a beautiful strength.
5: Take Part In The Mother Hearts Project: The Mother Hearts Project is a beautiful and meaningful way for your to celebrate Mother’s Day. It not only helps ease the pain for your heart, but it also empowers yourself and will allow you to inspire others as well. You are a beautiful mother who deserves all the love in the world. The Mother Hearts Project was created for you. More information on this coming soon.
MY WISHES FOR YOU THIS MOTHER’S DAY
My wish for you all is that through this special day you feel recognized as mothers. You are all worthy of the title. Truly you are. I hope you feel honoured this year, if not by your friends and family members, than by the millions of women out there around the world who empathize and understand what you are going through. I hope you feel empowered to share your own hearts and stories and help us to make a change in society so that we can bring the true meaning of Mother’s Day back. Whatever you do, wherever you are on this day, I send you my love. You are all beautiful mothers.