International Bereaved Mothers Day


International Bereaved Mothers Day was created to remind people about the true meaning of Mother’s Day. Do you know who started it? Anna Jarvis officially founded the traditional Mother’s Day to honour her mother Ann who experienced the death of 7 of her children and somehow through the years it has turned into a commercialized mess that corporate companies make millions of dollars from, but the worst thing is that bereaved mothers are completely forgotten. This day was created in honour of a bereaved mother. So I think it is time to take our day back to its roots. I believe we can do this by using our voices in a peaceful, loving way. To receive love, you must first give love.

The traditional Mothers Day has proven to be an emotionally difficult day for so many mothers around the world. Mother’s Day needs to be healed and together we can heal it. International Bereaved Mother’s Day is a temporary movement. We take part in this day to use our voices to speak up and about what the true meaning of Mother’s Day. It is our greatest hope that sometime in the near future all mothers will be remembered and recognized and there will be no need for this day at all.

healingdsSo what makes a mother? The Bumps Along The Way have answered that question in the most beautiful way. Please check out their video clip below.

On this day each year we come together to celebrate our connection, our mother hearts and our babies and children.

Sunday May 4th 2014, get together with your closest friends and family who understand and celebrate you. Celebrate your mother hearts, babies and children. And lets speak about the true meaning of Mother’s Day.

Visit our facebook page to join the community of bereaved mothers who are working with each other to heal Mother’s Day.

To help raise awareness for this beautiful project take some flowers from the flower gallery below. Post them as your profile image on your favourite social network. Post them on your friends walls on facebook and let them know they are beautiful mothers. Please feel welcome to use the images on your blogs or websites.


The Mother Hearts Project is new to International Bereaved Mother’s Day and it is set to be a beautiful movement. Click here to see what it is all about.

All media inquiries can be emailed to

We become mothers the very moment that we open our hearts to the decision of conceiving a child.

Wishing you all love and blessings for our Mothers Day.

With light,

Carly Marie

“A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart.”

- Franchesca Cox

















  1. Beautiful as always!

  2. This is so touching, thank you so much! We definitely do deserve to be recognized as mother’s, although our arms are empty.
    Thank you again, simply amazing.

  3. fernanda says:

    hermosas flores gracias ! los sigo desde argentina!!!!

  4. Rebecca Foulger says:

    What a BEAUTIFUL site. The images make me feel happy and are very inspiring. i think Bereaved Mothers Day is a GREAT idea and i’m actually looking forwards to celebrating the life i carried for only a few short weeks. Thankyou soooo much! x

  5. Rebecca Foulger says:

    i’ve started an events page on facebook for this wonderful wonderful day. please feel free to join it’s under the name International Bereaved Mothers Day with one of the wonderfully gorgeous flowers as the picture. Please pass this page to others who are in the same boat x

  6. Christina Hermosa says:

    Thank you so much for showing we need to be recognized too. My heart is feeled with so much joy right now. Thank you. :)

  7. I lost my first baby due to miscarriage a little over a month ago. I am so sad and dreading mothers day. Thank you for ‘creating’ this day of remberence. Even though the world looks at me and does not see me as a mother, I know in my heart that I am and this day brings that to light. Thank you.

  8. Thank you for this. Having had a miscarriage and then within the last 3 weeks, carrying a baby full term, only to have him pass 7 hours after birth (we were aware he was sick and had a 50/50 chance of survival due to his defect), the thought of Mother’s Day is unbearable. I’m not even sure I can call my mother and say the words to her without breaking down. I almost lost it in Target the other day, after walking past the Mother’s Day cards, and couldn’t even pick one out for my mom. More people need to be aware that just because there are men and women who aren’t pushing carriages or holding babies, doesn’t mean they aren’t moms and dads, and people who haven’t been in our situation don’t understand that. Thank you.

  9. Thank you for sharing this day I lost my 13 Year old Son 13 Years ago and every Mothers Day is a painful reminder of the loss of my only Child it is nice to have have a Day to celebrate our beloved Angels together.

    Take care from Jacki

  10. Lynda Bishop says:

    THANK YOU AND BLESS YOU for having this site. I miss my son David Matthew. Love to him and all the babies and momma’s here. God Bless <3

  11. I am in my sixties. I lost a child more than thirty years ago. A few years ago a friend brought a spiritual medium to my house. I did not believe in such things. The first thing he said to me was, “Your father and the baby you lost so many years ago are waiting for you in heaven”. It was a shock as I had never shared that loss with my friend or even my husband as it had occurred in a previous marriage. So know that we are still connected to those children and that hopefully some day we will be reunited.

    • It brings a sense of peace knowing they are waiting for us in heaven. I have always wanted to meet with a spiritual medium, but not sure who is real and who isn’t, I don’t want to get my hopes up but I’m happy for you that you were able to have the experience to know your baby and father are waiting for you. I am sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing,

  12. Thank you so much for organizing this day. I posted a status today about this day and changed my profile picture. A little dissapointed barely anyone commented and none of my family said anything about my status.

  13. Deanna says:

    There are no words, Carly. Except…THANK YOU. Much love, dear friend!

  14. Nicole Williams says:

    Hi there,
    Is this International Bereaved Mothers Day picture available to have printed?
    Thanks so much.

  15. I honestly had no idea about any of this until a week ago. I gave birth to my angel baby on May 13th. Mothers Day. It will never be the same for me, or anyone connected to me I guess. Ive been spending all my time finding websites like this one, and while it makes me feel better to know Im not alone, it hurts to know how many Mommies have to go through the loss of a child.

  16. Fernanda de Mexico says:

    Gracias!!! Hace un mes perdí a mis mellizos, tenia 6 meses de embarazo y se complico. Aun que tengo otros dos hijos es muy difícil continuar sin mis dos bebes, gracias por tu blog y compartir, hace que las demás que pasamos por lo mismo nos sintamos comprendidas.

  17. Any holiday can be such a hard time. My 1st mother’s day was in the NICU holding my baby girl only with a lot of pads and cushions and cords. My second was spent praying baby #2 would not have Oseteogenesis Imperfects (brittle bones) that our 1st baby girl had. Our rainbow reminds us every day how precious life is, and we continue to honor and cherish our rainbow Alle Shea whose unbreakable spirit lasted 5 weeks we have a website in her honor too which tells of some of our experiences. There are times that 2009 seems like a lifetime ago, and others that is is still happening right now. Love to all mothers and all the angel babies, and rainbow babies too.

  18. Gale Fitts says:

    This is a wonderful way for us to have our Mother’s Day!

  19. lyndellmaree says:

    Thank you Carly.
    Through Sands Queensland we are holding a Bereaved Mothers Day morning tea to support mothers in Brisbane and having a Mother’s Day card exchange for any bereaved mother. If anyone wants details they can contact

  20. This is amazing because my husband and I are walking on the 5th for March of Dimes in honor of our Daughter who was born sleeping 4/10/13

  21. Gracias por tener esta pagina,,,,y claro que es verdad! Como nos sentimos las madres que hemos perdido nuestros bebes!!!

  22. Cecilia Esteves says:

    Im happy to find this site. 4 months have passed and i still cant get over it. :(

  23. Cassandra says:

    I lost my son 3 weeks ago, I carried full term with a healthy little boy, only for him to pass 26 hours after coming into this world. I also had a miscarriage prior to that, its been a devasting long journey. I am happy I have found your website. It brings hope :)

  24. Debbie Spicer says:

    Just finding this after losing my 38 year old daughter, Kristy as well as my 5 year old Jordan, and som -in-law David, I find it doesn’t matter how old your child is when you lose them. The pain is as real and urgent any. For the mother losing a child from the womb till the end of your own life, losing a child is the most difficult and painful event in ones life. We do go on. It may not be because we want too. We have too. Love to and and all mothers who have lost a child. I am right there with you!
    Debbie Spicer

  25. Gail Mussen says:

    My daughter was killed the day after Mother’s Day so this is a Blessing,

  26. My name is Leanne and I just recently loss my baby, Daniel. He was born at 24 weeks, weighing just 1lb 10oz. He lived for 9 days, he passed away on December 7th 2013. I was by his side everyday in the NICU. Me and my husband had been trying for a year to conceive, I even started to wonder if I couldn’t have children. So when I found out I was pregnant I was so happy. I live in the US and my family live in the UK. They is no words for the pain I feel. I am so glad I came across your website. I was thinking about how Mother’s Day was approaching, in the UK Mother’s Day this year is on Sunday March 30 2014, different to the US. My Facebook will be flooded with Mother’s Day wishes, and all I feel is pain and that I won’t get to celebrate this day with my baby like Every one else, who has their child still here.

  27. The video clip was beautiful! Thank you. On Sept. 13, 2010 my baby boy was 23 months old. He was taken off life support. I miss him every day of my life.

  28. We just found out on April 22nd that our baby’s heart had stopped beating. It was our 7th miscarriage, our 6th miscarriage in the 2 years that we’d been trying to complete our family. Tomorrow we’re releasing 7 purple balloons, to represent a miscarriage where the gender was not known, though we are waiting on pathology and will know the gender of the baby we just lost. Thank you for reaching out and spreading the word about tomorrow. I hope it helps other mother’s, I know it will help me.

  29. Claire says:

    a celebration we all share /God Bless us all.

  30. A beautiful, beautiful video and message. And not to take away from that at all, but I would have liked to have heard a portion been included to the mothers who have lost older and adult children, as this seems to focus more on mothers of babies and small children. We “get lost” in the celebration of Mother’s Day as well. Still, a beautifully done tribute.

  31. i lost a beautifull son,,he was 32 years blessed with another 3 darlings…but NOTHING CAN TAKE AWAY THE EVERLASTING PAIN OF LOSS……I did find COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS,,so helpfull..grief never leaves,,but somehow..we keep living..if only for others,,mother of Cameron an angel..always in my heart…blessings to you all..

  32. “We become mothers the very moment that we open our hearts to the decision of conceiving a child.” Or adopting!

  33. My CARLIE MARIA is in Heaven. She left here on May 5,2008. She was sick for 5 years. Thank you for this thoughtful acknowledgement.

  34. Love your Page going to share this. Love and Light to you

  35. Melissa says:

    I can’t copy anything!!!! Urrgggghhh

  36. Jeanne V. Peacock says:

    I lost my only child in a very tragic manner while I was on a mission trip in Nicaragua. He was only 25… His 6th Heaven Date is coming up soon: July 15…

  37. Thank you for this beautiful thought. I lost my 21 year old son on May 5th. 2013. Today its exactly one year.

  38. May 18th will be 6 years since I lost my oldest daughter Danielle, she was only 29 & left 2 children behind. Time does not make it any easier, you just learn to cope.

  39. Amanda Borg says:

    Thank you for this sight, I am a mother who lost her teenage son, he was 14 when he was taken away and my always in my heart…as are the two babies I lose too

  40. Carol Walston says:

    She was always my GOD’S child, he allowed me the privilege of being instrumental in giving birth to her. She was 35 when he required of me to give her back to him. She was never really mine, always his. I’ve recovered with his grace, mercy, strength and courage although there is no closure. I question my GOD not about it, I just know that it was his will. May these words bring comfort to another “International Bereaved Mother” as these thoughts have given me some PEACE and COMFORT. Thank you for creating this website, it also is good to share with others that has had the “Unimagineable Experience” too. It helps to be able to share and talk of this with others and know you’re not alone. I’m so SORRY for all having had this experience as well. Prayers to all of you……..May GOD bring you PEACE and COMFORT

  41. Such an amazing video

  42. grahamforeverinmyheart says:

    I put a link to your site on the website I’ve been curating in memory of my 23 year old son who was killed almost 2 years ago (May 22, 2012).


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