The Seashore of Remembrance

Today would have been my Granddad’s 88th birthday. 88. What a life.

This photo is the last photo I have of Griz. It was taken 7 weeks before he died. That is my Nan on the left. Her name is Shirley. Isn’t she beautiful? I love this photograph.

Three days after Griz died I found myself down at the beach at sunset. With my iphone in my pocket and headphones on I listened to this song over and over. Listen to it. It is amazing. My cousin Holly had picked it out for Griz’s funeral. It would be played as all the guys in my family would carry my Granddad’s coffin into the chapel.

I had the whole beach to myself this night. What a rare gift this was.  The conditions at the beach were perfect. And when I say perfect, I truly mean that. The sunset seemed to last forever. The sand was a smooth, clean canvas and the ocean was calm. I dream of beach experiences like this.

I started writing all of the childrens names on my list. I cried so much that I couldn’t see properly through the lens of my camera so I stopped and sat down. I felt my Granddad’s presence. I could hear him “Oi! What’s your name again?!” (He would always say that to me as a joke) “Why don’t you write my name? I’m dead too!”  He said it with a chuckle. So I got up and wrote the name that he called himself – Charlie. As I wrote his name I could hear him “Terrific – Thanks Pet”

I decided to write all of the names that he went by. Charles, Charlie, Dad, Griz, Grizzy and Henry. With each of his names that I wrote I could hear his whistle above the music in my head phones and I felt him leave me. He made his way out to the sunset. I couldn’t see him, I just knew that is where he went. On the day that he died when the sun set behind the most magnificent navy blue storm clouds, a bright gold lining appeared on the edges of all the clouds. Massive golden ray’s of light poured out towards the heavens where the stars would soon appear. In one word it was epic. My whole family stood on the beach together in awe of the sunset. We all agreed that the gold lining on the clouds was definitely Griz’s touch as I had never seen anything like it before, and you know me, I have photographed hundreds of sunsets. Anyway as I was saying, after I completed writing all of his names I prayed and asked him if I should start writing names for people of any age. He didn’t answer me in words. He answered me by painting the brightest pink lining of the clouds out on the horizon.

So today on what would be his 88th birthday my family and I have opened The Seashore of Remembrance.

Visiting the beach each night since my Granddad has passed away has become an even more spiritual experience for me. Now when I step into the sand each afternoon, I am not only meeting my son down there but his Great Grandfather too. Every night at the beach I am reunited. And instead of blowing one kiss out to the sea when I leave, I now blow two.

Heaven is real, there is no death.

Happy Birthday Griz. I know my painting skills don’t even come close to matching yours, so I will just sit back and photograph your sunset paintings from the shore. I will try my best to capture the beauty you create and do it justice. I promise to make you proud.



  1. This is so utterly beautiful, you and both of your grandparents are amazing.

  2. wow

  3. Oh Carly, I loved this post. Sending you big hugs. The song is amazingness by the way.

    Lots of love-

  4. Tiffany Lopez says:

    oh carly how beautiful. Im moved to tears <3

  5. Carly, you are truly amazing. What a gift you are to all of us. God Bless you and your family.

  6. leesa yates says:

    wow how beautiful….

  7. Carly I am so touched by what you have created as a legacy to you dear granddad. He is proud… What started as a legacy to Christian has grown through your love and compassion, and this new chapter will touch even more lives with it’s light.
    Blessings to you…

  8. Just Gorgeous Carls.
    i Love that picture of you and your granddad, i can see all of your little tinkerbells in you… it is unreal.
    To your beautiful granddad. xxx

  9. Hey how are you doing? I just wanted to stop by and say that it’s been a pleasure reading your blog. I have bookmarked your website so that I can come back & read more in the future as well. plz do keep up the quality writing

  10. I truly wanted to construct a simple message to appreciate you for all of the unique ways you are showing on this website. My incredibly long internet lookup has finally been rewarded with incredibly good strategies to go over with my partners. I ‘d declare that many of us readers are very lucky to dwell in a really good website with so many special people with insightful advice. I feel quite blessed to have used your web pages and look forward to plenty of more entertaining times reading here. Thanks a lot once more for a lot of things.

  11. Heya i am for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out a lot. I hope to give something back and aid others like you helped me.

  12. Incredible! Your post has a lot viewers. How did you get all of these viewers to see your blog I’m envious! I’m still studying all about posting information on the web. I’m going to click on more articles on your website to get a better understanding how to attract more people. Thanks for the help!

  13. When I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service? Thanks!

  14. I wanted to thank you yet again for this amazing web-site you have designed here. It’s full of ideas for those who are definitely interested in this subject, especially this very post. You’re really all absolutely sweet and thoughtful of others plus reading your blog posts is a superb delight if you ask me. And what a generous gift! Ben and I are going to have fun making use of your points in what we should instead do next week. Our list is a mile long and tips might be put to good use.
    My blog is best acne treatment

  15. I just wanted to comment and say that I really enjoyed reading your blog post here. It was very informative and I also digg the way you write! Keep it up and I’ll be back to read more in the future

  16. I just couldn’t depart your website prior to suggesting that I really enjoyed the standard information a person provide for your visitors? Is going to be back often to check up on new posts

  17. I understand this is really boring and youre simply skipping to another comment, but I recently wanted to throw you a big thanks! We really discovered this on yahoo, and im happy Used to do. Ill definitely be finding its way back

  18. Wow! Thanks! I needed to write on my website something of that nature. Can one implement an integral part of this post to my site?

  19. Yeah, i just fully understand the position, and yet precisely why would many of us care? In the background of things happening on the globe. For instance, i actually do not mean most people really don’t, however , there can be far more essential information all over, at the very least in my position. But that has been an excellent easy explanation on this page from you. Let me reveal that to my mommy and maybe my father, i believe it may appeal to them too. I also saved as a favorite your website when i saw that there are much more subject areas of my personal interest in below, however , i get to sleep at this point. Proceed posting, superior night. ;-)

  20. My spouse and me found a dvd movie relevant to this particular topic years back. Now i mistakenly discovered your own posting, and this totally call to mind me personally once again. Are there a thought how was that called? With Alma Zak i suppose. I am going to try to google them currently, yet anyway, wonderful blog post, i really like that point of view of you. For certain i will bookmark your site, and possibly investigate it again significantly eventually, have got to head over to work at this time.

  21. Very interesting topic , regards for putting up.

  22. Would love to incessantly get updated great blog ! .

  23. Anytime I research a topic I’ve no clue what i will find. I am so pleased to have found your detailed blogging as it completely details the issues I have in mind and also the unspoken issues that i might have checked for later.

  24. I discovered your weblog site on google and test a number of of your early posts. Continue to keep up the excellent operate. I simply additional up your RSS feed to my MSN News Reader. In search of ahead to studying more from you later on!…

  25. I gotta say this internet web page is definitely unique, hold submitting fantastic info.

  26. Thanks for a great blog post. I love the laughable remarks.

Leave a Reply