August 19th – Day of Hope – The Prayer Flag Project


The August 19th – Day of Hope Prayer Flag Project is a profoundly moving, poignant and healing event to break the silence surrounding the death of babies and children. It is also an incredibly touching way to honour their lives. Each year we have thousands of people taking part across the globe, making this a truly inspiring event.

The Project itself begins on July 1st and will end on August 19th 2014. You can join the Project at any point between these two dates. We invite you all to make a Prayer Flag in memory of your children that have died. In the process of making your Prayer Flag you are able to give yourself some time to honour your own personal journey and reflect on your grief and healing as well. On August 19th we will be stringing our Prayer Flags up in our homes, gardens or places that are significant to us, all over the world. We will then be sharing them in photographs and video clips with the rest of the world through social media.

What Is A Prayer Flag?

A Prayer Flag is a piece of coloured material. They are usually rectangular in shape. The Prayer Flags are often inscribed with mantras, prayers, messages, scriptures, blessings, names, words, poems or quotes.  The tradition of hanging Prayer Flags dates back thousands of years. It is believed that once the Prayer Flags are hung up, the breeze takes the prayers and carries them all over the world. Prayer Flags hold a very sacred and beautifully divine energy.

Who Can Join This Project: Anyone who has been touched by the death of a baby or child at any age or gestation is welcome to join. Just like last year, we would also like to invite the infertility community to join us too. For those of you who are living through infertility we invite you to make a flag to capture your own journey. You may want to make a Flag to express your grief with trying to conceive a child or you may want to make a flag of hope for the future, it is completely up to you. You may want to share this experience with your friends and family members or support groups. It could be a project that you all work on together. In saying that you can keep this project completely to yourself. There is no obligation for you to share this experience with anyone. Just do what is most comfortable for you.

cdd-horzHow To Make A Prayer Flag:

Take your time to make your Prayer Flags. Dedicate this time in your life to your children and to yourselves.  You may want look for some inspiration before starting. Think about your children. Is there a certain colour that you associate your child with? Do you have a specific symbol for them? Think about all of the things that you could incorporate to represent the precious life of your child. You may want to search Pinterest for some ideas. You can sketch your design out on a piece of paper before you start working on your Flag. You may choose to simply cut and glue (like me!) or if you can sew or crochet, you may take that approach. When it comes to the actual time of creating your Prayer Flag – light a candle for your child and play some beautiful music or you may even want to make it in silence. Switch your phone to silent, turn off the TV. Make your surroundings as peacefu as possible. You may want to take photos as you go to document your journey. Remember to be mindful that this is to be a healing experience. It is not just about the very end result, but the journey.

You will need:

  • A rectangular piece of material around 9×12 inches in size:  By us all having the same shape and size we can symbolize the unity in this community. We all have different stories (flag designs) but we have one common bond (Flag size/shape).
  • Creative Materials: You do not have to be super creative to take part in this Project. Things that you will need a pair of scissors, glue OR a sewing machine. I do not have a sewing machine, so for those of you freaking out, thinking you can’t take part… you can! You may want to paint your Prayer Flag or use coloured texters, stickers or other embellishments. There are no rules when it comes to how creative you would like to be with this Project. If you are looking for more inspiration you are welcome to browse through my Prayer Flag Albums that I created in 2012 when over 350 families from around the world sent us a hand-made Flag to be displayed at our Beach Remembrance Ceremony that we held in October 2012.
  • What To Include In Your Flag: Take some time to think about what you would like it to represent. The most popular idea is to put your child’s name and special dates on the Flag. Some people include photographs, hand and foot prints. You could include a poem, love letter to your child or meaningful words. We had a few people create their Flags last year from baby blankets and clothes that were worn during labor. The creative possibilities here are endless. You may want to tell a story of your grief and healing journey within your flag. Some people like to write the names on their flag of all the people in their lives who have been supportive during their journey.
  • How Many Flags You Can Make: We think it would be really lovely for us to only make one Flag per year. In saying this though, we want this project to bring the most amount of healing as possible and so if that means that you would like to make multiple Prayer Flags, please do so. We love that some people make one for their child and one for themselves to help inspire healing and hope.

Join The Online FACEBOOK Event:

We are hosting the online event on Facebook. The event wall will open for people to post their Prayer Flags on, a few days before August 19th. Please note that all major updates will be posted on my facebook page.

Where And When Do I Hang Your Prayer Flag: On August 19th – Day of Hope we will be sharing the photographs of our prayer flags hanging in all different parts of the world on social media. Where you decide to hang them is completely up to you. You may want to take them to  special place, the cemetery, a beach, park, memorial garden or in your own home. I will be keeping the event open for a week after August 19th to give people the opportunity to share their Prayer Flags. Please feel welcome to share what part of the world you are from too!

Hash Tags: If you use hash tags please use #august19thprayerflagproject

Project Updates: Throughout the next 2 months I will be featuring blog posts, instagram images and facebook posts from you all so please feel welcome to share your journey on my page under any of my posts. You can add photos in all of the comment sections. I will also be hosting a google hangout and a Prayer Flag making tutorial on youtube. If you want to keep up with any project updates please visit my facebook page here. You can subscribe to the page to avoid missing anything by hovering your mouse over the “liked” button. It should then drop down and give you the options to get notifications.

Media Inquiries: All media inquiries can be emailed to

Please Share The Project: Every year after this project comes to an end, we have so many people contacting us telling us that they found out too late. We want to avoid this as much as possible, so please share the event with your friends, family and support groups! This is a project that everyone can work on together.

prayThe World Map: If you plan on taking part this year, we would love you to let us know where you are taking part from as we plan on adding pins to this world map to see where all the Prayer Flags are being created. Please take a moment to fill out the form on the right hand side of this website towards the bottom of the page. All the information you send will be kept confidential. The world map will be updated here each week.

Promotional Film Clip: Below is a short film clip we created for The Prayer Flag Project. The film features around 20 of the 350 flags that were sent to us for our first Project back in 2012. We hope that the film inspires to you to join this peaceful movement to break the silence surrounding the death of babies and children. May we unite and heal together. Thank you so much for being a part of this dream of ours.

Remember, this is a project to inspire healing for your heart. If at any point your feel stressed, or that it is just too hard, that is okay. You can always come back to the project another time if you want to. You need to remember to look after yourself. So be gentle with your heart.

We can’t wait to see all of your beautiful Prayer Flags!

With love and blessings to you all,

CarlyMarie and Sam Dudley


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